The "Yes" Woman

I often question why some women have no self-esteem, no self-worth and it seems as if some of the most beautiful women have this issue.  I wonder what turn of events have taken place in their lives where internally their soul looks like the woman in this picture, worn out and tired, tired of being a doormat and a "yes" woman, but too afraid and insecure to rock the boat with the men in their lives in fear them leaving.

I know of a girl who on paper looks like the perfect catch.  She is well educated, has gone to one of the most renowned schools in the country, pretty, has her own money, car, apartment and dates a man who hasn't even a third of what she has.  Over the years I have watched this woman relinquish her power to make her man feel in control and above her.  I've witnessed many repulsing events between this girl and her man, but one in particular stands out to me.  As I sat in the back seat of "her" car, she came out of her apartment; I watched as she approached with a look of content on her face.  Opening the passenger side door she smiles and says, "Hey babe!" In a low and indifferent voice he responds, "Hey."  I watched them get close as her lips were puckered full on and his puckering only the second before their faces met.  "Thanks for picking me up babe."  (Needle to the record!)  HUH????  Wait... Did I miss something?  It was as if I literally heard the needle scratch the record.  In that instance I was confused saying to myself, "This is her car isn't it?  If she's paying the note, why is she thanking the driver of "her" car?  Shouldn't he be picking her up?  After all, it is "her" car?"  I had never witnessed such a thing in my life, but it seems to be working for the couple who looks happy to the outside world. I can't imagine how conditioned her brain is to serve a man while he reap the benefits of her labor.  Not only is she working overtime in her profession, but she is in overdrive 24/7, trying to accommodate a man, who my male friends say, "Will rag her dry..."

Touching on the subject of relationships, I asked some guy friends if the "yes woman" tactic will get a woman down the aisle, I wasn't surprised when their responses were,"That's not how you get married; you don't wanna get married to a slave; I don't wanna yes woman, I wanna woman with spunk; I wanna woman who is going to tell me when I'm wrong." After hearing them out I say, "You say you don't want a woman like that, but would you leave a woman that supports you financially, gives up her hard earnings and is kinkier than any woman you may have slept with?"  Without delay, "Just because you're doing everything for me doesn't mean I'm happy."  They then had questions for me; with conviction and certainty, more of a statement than a question, they ask, "Has he cheated yet? Because as soon as the next best thing comes along he's out..."  Trying to give this woman the benefit of the doubt I say, "Wait, maybe these people are really happy."  Their last words on the subject were, "No man wants a yes woman, it's only a matter of time before he leaves."

Wanting to slap some sense into this chick for the last couple of years, I know that she is too far gone, the damage is done and what is between her man's legs must be gold and not flesh. But when does she wake up?  When he has wrung her out like a towel to dry?  When she catches him cheating?  Or when she wakes up handcuffed behind bars being featured on the next episode of Snapped?